You may have arrived at Love and Respect because you are hurt, frustrated, confused, fearful, angry, or worse. You may be in-crisis.

I understand.

My mom and dad divorced. Fortunately, they reconciled and remarried. However, later they separated for five years. I went through this heartache growing up. Sarah, my wife, and I have heard from thousands of people over the last (16) years tell of us their feeling(s) of helplessness and hopelessness.

You may be at that point.

I can help you with a simple truth that has helped more than 2 million people. I wish I could sit down with you face to face but in some ways I can help you more when you read or watch what I say, pausing to take it in. Truth is, if we met personally, I would tell you the same thing as we sipped coffee, talking heart to heart. I would begin by telling you of the Crazy Cycle that every couple experiences. I would share that you are not alone and abnormal when spinning on the Crazy Cycle. But if you don’t understand the Crazy Cycle, you can get off track, and that’s when one of you, or both of you, start making unhealthy choices. But when you grasp the Crazy Cycle, many times a relationship takes a turn for the better, and quite quickly. That could happen to you as much as you cannot imagine it. Trust me, I have seen the miracle countless times over the years as I have served marriages full time.

What resources should you consider? Please consider three options.

  • One, listen to our first and #1 podcast on “The Crazy Cycle.” IT IS FREE!  This is a podcast, that my son Jonathan, a clinical psychologist, and I do each week. You will hear firsthand a simple message about the Crazy Cycle that has revolutionized thousands of marriages.
  • Two, please read the classic work called Love & Respect. The fact that this book has made it to the New York Times bestseller list twice indicates that this message is life-changing and marriage-changing. In this book, I address the three cycles couples need to discover. I begin with the Crazy Cycle.
  • Three, if you are more visual and auditory, please watch the live marriage conference on DVD or streaming. There I cover the three Cycles: The Crazy Cycle, The Energizing Cycle, and the Rewarded Cycle.

Remember, as bad as things are, they did not start out bad in most cases. Instead, repeated misunderstandings – often honest misunderstandings – took their toll. Then, in some instances, adultery happened or explosive arguments that leave both deeply wounded and closed off to each other.

Even so, you want to move forward and that’s why you are here but the hurt, frustration, confusion, fear, and anger feels overwhelming and insurmountable.

I applaud your courage to reach out to us.

With Love and Respect,

Emerson and Sarah